Youth Consultation Report

NEGOTIATING ABSTINENCE 1

Jeffrey, the hottest guy in school asked Jennifer to go out with him on Friday night. She is on cloud nine and just can't stop thinking about him. She called Racheline to tell her the great news. Girl, I still can't believe it, he asked me to go to the movies with him. You could imagine that? What to wear? How to comb my hair? I got to remember to make an appointment to do my nails.

Jennifer and Racheline went shopping and bought the sexiest outfit ever. A hot jeans with the most beautiful low cut top that leaves no room for her to bend over or forward...

Friday night Jeffrey meets her at the cinema and offers her to take her back home. Jennifer doesn't hesitate and says ok without thinking twice. While in the car Jeffrey asks Jennifer to go somewhere private with him so that they can talk. He parks the car in a secluded area and they have a nice time talking. Out of the blue Jeffrey looked Jennifer in her eyes and started to gently kiss her on her neck and moves slowly to her lips.

While kissing him Jennifer keeps telling herself: "I can't do this and I am not ready to go so far with him, but I don't want him to stop liking me God please tell me what to do".

Give Jenniffer some advice on what she can do and help her by telling her what to say.What signals are Jeffrey and Jennifer sending?

NEGOTIATING ABSTINENCE 2

Albert and Rita have been seeing each other for the past year and half. Lately Rita seems to be getting insecure when it comes to his feelings to wards her.

She mentioned to him that she is of the opinion that he doesn't love her because he doesn't want to have sex with her. "Are you not attracted to me? Do I smell bad? Why don't you want to sleep with me? Are you gay? I have feelings too you know..."

Albert loves Rita and tries to reassure her that they are together because he loves her, but he is just not ready to have sex at this time in his life. But Rita didn't want to hear that and threatened to leave him. Albert does not know how to handle this. What do you think about Rita's thoughts? What do you think about Albert's? Can this happen in real life? What should they do? Who is right and who is wrong here and why?